“Hard work breaks no bone”
Gosh, the number of times I had to endure hearing these words from my Grandfather while he recounted how he started the foundation to his house on his own without having to hire the services of an expert in construction, performing “wala tu, wala sa” meaning “dig yourself and fetch yourself”.
At the time it seemed the old man was talking too much and I often tranced out into a world of my own, looking for unicorns or hunting leprechauns or something else whenever I heard “hard work…”
But looking back, I appreciate the man for what he’s achieved and for sharing his story.
A few weeks ago, my dad called me and handed me a snippet of a newspaper. He had kept it for a while probably waiting for the right moment to hand it over.
He told me to open and read it out loud to his hearing, I chortled.
It was a story from the metro newspaper on Monday, May 11, 2015 granting an interview to Victoria “Posh” Beckham.
The former spice girl, now mother of four and wife of retired English footballer and soccer icon David Beckham with the headline “I want our children to work hard”.
“She may seem unflappable, but Victoria Beckham says globetrotting, running her business and having time to raise four children is a ‘constant struggle’.
‘Like so many working mothers all over the world, I feel the constant struggle to be the best mother I can, whilst setting a good example to my children to work hard’, the designer, 41, wrote in an open letter to mark Mother’s Day in the US.
‘I travel for work when it’s necessary and I miss them all the time when I am away.
Despite her eldest lad Brooklyn, 16, keeping the world posted on his famous friends and freebie treats, Posh says he and his brothers and sister will be made to understand what hard work is.
Being in a position where they live such a privileged life, it is important that our children understand humility, that they appreciate how their parents have worked very hard to create this life for the family, and that they too, have a responsibility to work hard, be respectful and never, ever take anything for granted.”
One thing that jumped out at me was how Mrs Beckham with all her wealth and status was still working and she making her children aware of the fact that, though they were indeed blessed with a very privileged life they needed to be humble, also they weren’t exempted from working hard.
Let’s face it, even if David was not lifting a finger to work after retiring from footy the wealth he had amassed from his playing days along with his endorsement deals in place coupled with what Vic had also made from her pop group “Spice Girls” would certainly be enough to give the family a comfortable life, I want to believe. Yet they aren’t resting on their laurels, they’re working and adding to what they already have.
It’s now up to the kids to make most of what their parents have done (which is a more than solid foundation to build on) and accomplish more than their parents have achieved or equal it at the very least. Which is no mean feat, make no mistake about it.
Now our parents may not be as rich and elite as the Becks. We may not have been born with a silver ladle (spoon is too small) in our mouths but our parents have certainly done their best to provide for and give us a better start at life than most of them had growing up.
The numerous years of paying fees, buying textbooks, clothing, feeding etc. just so we could have a better future.
They could have spent the monies on themselves, lavish themselves with gifts, buy the latest cloths to show off at the next funeral, engagement party or buy lands leave it for years to appreciate and sell at a profit but instead they choose to invest in us, in our futures.
And like Victoria was making her children aware we have to surpass the levels our parents reached. Which can only be achieved through hard work.
Now, I believe my old boy made me read the interview to let me know that even the elite have to work hard to sustain what they have. Nobody can escape working hard in this life.
Proverbs 10:4 “The one who is lazy becomes poor, but the one who works diligently becomes wealthy. “
Assuming the Beckham kids don’t work hard and live of the labour fruits of their parents they’d be cosy for a while but for how long? What would their kids yet unborn have to start their lives on when they arrive?
One problem our generation faces is that we can’t wait our turn. We want everything handed to us now. We see people who have made it in life and we want to have now the goodies they toiled years for to achieve. They didn’t reach the heights they are today lazing about.
As Bishop David Oyedepo would say “if you want the glory then you have to know the story”.
I can guarantee that the common theme that will feature through the stories of many successful men and women is HARD WORK. There is no substitute for hard work.
Sitting one time at a wedding where renowned writer and pastor Rev. Anyani- Boadum gave a message to the marrying couple, he spoke about how today’s generation isn’t able to stifle or postpone their hunger for acquiring things that are not yet right for the season leading us to various social vices just to get what we want.
We want to have everything now without having to break a sweat but what we often forget is that there are no shortcuts in life.
There are principles in this life, one of which is “you reap what you sow”.
One quote that has always been with me, by William Shatner of the Boston Legal fame is “Be humble about your accomplishments and always work harder than the man next to you”.
A person cannot harvest from a land where he has not laboured and tilled.
2 Thess 3:10-12 “For even when we were with you, we used to give you this command: “If anyone is not willing to work, neither should he eat.” 11 For we hear that some among you are living an undisciplined life, not doing their own work but meddling in the work of others. 12 Now such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to work quietly and so provide their own food to eat.”
For those of us who feel life hasn’t been fair to us so we’ll just be content with where we are and blame our circumstance. I’d leave you with the words my high school elective maths teacher.
“It is not your fault if you’re born in the ghetto but it is your fault if you remain in the ghetto”.
One thing I have learnt and come to grasp in my short period on this earth is, life will certainly not happen to us as we want it so it is up to us to work hard to get what we want else we’d be forced to like what you have.